Friday, January 09, 2009

A Tribute to Robert F. Jones

Robert F. Jones, my grandfather, died a year ago tonight. As a tribute to him, here's a picture of him with my son, Joshua:



And here's the text of the speech I gave at his funeral, which was held in Memphis, Tennessee on Saturday, January 12, 2007:


Good morning. Thank you all for being here today. Since I don't really know many of you, I'd like to take a poll before I go on. How many of you have known Robert Jones for 15 years or more? How about 25 years? 35 years? Wow! Thank you! You see, 35 years ago I was the sick baby who needed your prayers and thanks to my grandfather, you came through for me. Of course it's an honor for me to be here today, but if you'd seen me 35 years ago you'd also say it's a miracle.

Now, I live in Arizona with my wife of nine years, Brandi, and our children, Joshua, age 6, and Jacqueline, age 4. Brandi was able to be with us today, but our children are staying with friends. I was fortunate in that my kids were able to get to know my granddaddy which means that this past week was also hard for them, too.

Wednesday evening, Joshua was sitting on my bed crying like the little boy that he is. He said, "I want to see great-granddaddy again." I sat down next to him on the bed and held him in my arms. I told him to take a deep breath and close his eyes. Then, I told him to picture his great-granddaddy clearly in his mind, which he can do because we have pictures of him around the house. After he'd done this I said, "Joshua, as long as you can picture him in your mind, you always be able to see him."

I released Joshua with my right arm and put it around Jacqueline. She said that great-grama must be sad. One of her best friend's grandmothers succomed to cancer relatively recently, so she seems to understand the sadness associated with that kind of loss. I told her that we're all sad because we all love him. Then, my four-year old daughter looked me in the eye and said, "Tell great-grama that I'll never, ever forget him."

I've spent the last couple of nights in his room in my grandparents' townhouse. It was a comforting feeling because his presence is everywhere. I don't mean that in a supernatural sense. The room has the pictures that I know were special to him. There is a stack of Sunday Prayer Bulletins on his bedside table; the latest of which is dated December 30th, 2007. There are also eight clocks in the room...all set to the exact same time!

His legacy is much more than pictures, papers, and synchonized time pieces, though. I feel my grandfather's legacy whenever I feel my father's unconditional love. I hear my grandfather's legacy whenever I hear my brother's quick wit. And I see my grandfather's legacy whenver I see my son's protruding ears.

Those we love are never truly gone. Like I told my son, as long as I can picture him in my mind, I'll always be able to see him. And like my daughter, I'll never, ever forget him. Thank you.


Wednesday, January 07, 2009

Visiting Martial Arts Schools

Hi!

We visited the Ja Shin Do school again last night, but this time took class. Great workout!! Grand Master Bauman is a firm believer in physical conditioning and the soreness we're feeling today is testament. Brandi and I felt very comfortable there, not so much with the kids. Jacqueline participated some; Joshua, not at all. We think Joshua wants the experience to be more like what his friends have where they go. (He attended a karate-themed birthday party for one of his friends at his school.)

We visited another school tonight, S&H (formerly Stevens) Family Karate. Their web site is here. This school evolved from Mike Erickson's America's Best Karate, where Brandi and I met and first trained in TKD together. They teach the traditional TKD forms, and while this may seem like a violation of one of my criteria, it's something we may be willing to overlook.

When Brandi and I started our own family, we always figured that our kids would eventually be enrolled in a martial arts program. We also always figured that it'd be at a school where we were already training, and perhaps even teaching. After we left Choi's, we got it into our heads that we'd start from scratch as a family in a completely new style. While I'd love to do this, I'm not sure it's practical. A school that has a beginner's program that would be engaging and challenging to Brandi and I (who have nearly three decades of training experience between us), would probably be inappropriate for the kids. A school that is kid-focused (like where some of his friends train), would be inappropriate for us. The only solution is a school where the kids can start as beginners, and she and I can continue as black belts. This is only possible in a traditional TKD school.

We haven't made up our minds, yet, but this is what we're thinking...

Thanks,
Matt

Visiting Martial Arts Schools

Hi!

I posted to my TKD blog tonight an update to our search. It can be found here.

Thanks,
Matt

Tuesday, January 06, 2009

Fiesta Bowl

Hi!

Brandi and I went to the Fiesta Bowl last night between UT and OSU. Great game! You can read the details on ESPN's web site, so I won't get into them here. I'm sure you're wondering how we got tickets to such a game. Well, my association with Desert Sun has results in the acquisition of more than cockroaches. One of the parents is the CFO of the Fiesta Bowl and donated a bunch of tickets to the school. The Directors, in their infinite wisdom and charity, offered them to faculty, staff, and board members. Accepting a pair was a no-brainer. Many thanks to my mother and grandmother for watching the kids... Anyway, here's a picture I took of the field:



There was a lot of traffic, so we were a bit late. We missed the first two minutes or so of the first quarter, but didn't miss much. The first half was pretty lame. By way of comparison, had we missed the first two minutes of the Insight Bowl on New Year's Eve, we'd have missed two touchdowns! By the end of the first half, only three FGs had been scored. Both offenses really seemed to struggle. During halftime, both bands played. Here's a video of the OSU band:



The main reason I show this video is because shooting it totally drained my battery, so I had no juice to take anything as the game went down to the wire. I had only charged the battery once after receiving the camera as a gift from Brandi for Christmas. I should have charged it. Oh well... I was hoping to record a game-winning FG. At least the TDs late in the fourth were a bit of a surprise, so there's no way I could have anticipated them and had the camera going. The best way I can describe the end of the game is that "Texas snatched defeat from the jaws of victory, then shoved it back down its throat." I swear the UT fans in front of us threw up over the rail when OSU scored a TD with two minutes left, then the OSU fans did the same when UT scored a TD with :26 left.

The guy next to me seemed to know as much as I do about football, but that's not saying much. However, when OSU was driving down the field toward the end, we were talking about time management. It really didn't seem that OSU was planning to get the ball back. They had a 2nd and 2 at the UT 15 when they ran for the TD. Had they gotten the first down and used more time on a few more plays before a score, they'd have taken the lead with only a few seconds left. After the run, Brandi asked me whether two minutes was enough for UT to score a TD. I said, "Sure, it happens all the time." Sure enough, it happened last night.

Take care!
Matt

Monday, January 05, 2009

Hissy and Chippy

Hi!

Yesterday, I promised a post on our cockroaches, so here it is. Joshua's Kindergarten class at Desert Sun had Madagascar hissing cockroaches as class pets. When one had babies, the teacher offered the progeny to the students. Joshua (and Jacqueline) both thought this was a great opportunity to expand the menagerie that is our household. At first, I balked. I mean, who wants to welcome cockroaches into their home? Joshua made a good case, though: He said that they're not vermin because they're pets and they don't have diseases because they were born in captivity. I relented. Joshua's is named Hissy and Jacqueline's is Chippy. Here's a photo of their habitats:



Here's a close-up of Chippy:



Hissy likes to hang out right under the lid, so I couldn't get a good picture of him. I assume (and let the kids assume) that Joshua's is male and Jacqueline's is female. This justifies our keeping them separate. In fact, we have no idea but don't want to take a chance. The Wikipedia site explains how to tell male from female, but I'd still prefer not to take a chance.

One nice thing about cockroaches is they're hearty pets, as you might expect. The kids totally ignored them for a couple of months and with a little water and food, they bounced right back. Two days of the same treatment would kill most fish. Of course, "pet" is not what we do with them...but that's also true of fish. In a future post, I'll introduce our real "pets."

Thanks,
Matt

Sunday, January 04, 2009

Dad's 64th Birthday

Hi!

My post about cockroaches is going to have to wait because today is my father's 64th birthday. Brandi, the kids, and I got him a gift certificate for a restaurant in downtown Chandler. We figured he can use it before the Oak Ridge Boys concert (for which we got him tickets for Christmas).

My brother, Tad, his wife, Mirela, and their son, Alex, got him a nice frame with a picture of him with Alex and a copy of The Beatles' Sgt. Pepper CD. This is the one with "When I'm Sixty-Four" on it. I'm sure that my brother has been planning this for years, if not decades.

We met at Marie Calendar's for pie. (They had a large, late lunch and weren't interested in dinner.) It worked out well. Here's a video of our singing:



He's done a lot in his 64 years and has plans to do a lot more. Here's to many more, Pop, we love you!

Thanks,
Matt

Saturday, January 03, 2009

I Love My Kids!

Hi!

This may seem like something that doesn't need saying, but here it goes: I love my kids! I don't just mean in the parental way, but I really do love being around them. My seven-year old son, Joshua, is a great kid! Since we got our Wii for Christmas, he's spent a LOT of time playing it. I love that he cares enough to be frustrated...and enough to keep trying until he gets it. Sometimes, his mom or I will help him, but I know he prefers to do it on his own. This morning, he and I were playing an Avatar game. I get bored with the game rather quickly, but don't get bored watching his excitement as we work together toward common goals.

My five-year old daughter, Jacqueline, is also a great kid! She's VERY active wants to be a singer/dancer when she grows up. (These are two skills she most definitely will NOT inherit from her father.) Here's a video of her showing off her new Kung Fu Panda headband.



She likes to make up songs and perform them in front of friends and family. Not casually, though, she wants it to be a big production. I'll have to start recording those for YouTube posting, too.

Being a father is a lot of work. I try do right by my kids. I'm not perfect, but they know I'm trying. When I mess up, I apologize. I don't think pretending to be perfect is setting the right example, so I'll just be human...and I'll love them for being human, too.

Take care!
Matt

Friday, January 02, 2009

Resolution Number One

Hi!

I made a post related to resolution number one on my martial arts blog. I've also started using our Wii Fit regularly. It's a good workout and a lot of fun. There's a video of Jacqueline doing one of the balance games on my YouTube channel. I may post one of myself some day...

Take care!
Matt

New Year's Resolution

Hi!

One of my New Year's Resolutions is to get back into martial arts as a family activity. Last year, I trained briefly with some folks at Intel in the gym in OC2. They're good folks and I enjoyed my time with them, but I didn't feel it was a long term solution to my problem. The problem, of course, is that I needed to have somewhere to train on a regular basis and I really wanted it to be with my family.

We did some thinking and established some criteria that a school would have to meet in order for it to be a solution to our (no longer just "my") problem. First, it'd have to be a style that we all could enjoy and would help us to grow. Unofficially, this ruled out TKD since we wanted to feel like we were all going to start at the same level. Second, it'd have to have classes that allow us to train at basically the same time. We didn't want a school with a schedule that would require us to go there at certain times for the kids, and certain other times for the adults. The classes didn't have to be mixed, but they couldn't be so disjoint that it'd be a hassle. Third, we know Joshua will want to train with weapons, so we'd like to find a school that has some weapons training in the curriculum. Of course, the usual criteria apply as well: good facilities, nice people, reasonable tuition rates, competent instructors. We narrowed our choice down to three schools:

  • Ja Shin Do
  • Isshinryu Karate
  • Hung Fa Yi Wing Chun

    All three schools meet the usual criteria. Isshinryu Karate might seem to violate the first based on the same reasons that we unofficially ruled out TKD (I'm already a black belt in Isshinyu), but since it has been so long I'd feel like I was starting over anyway. We still haven't made up our mind, but are planning to visit the Ja Shin Do school next week to try a class. I'll post again after our visit...

    Thanks,
    Matt
  • Thursday, January 01, 2009

    New Year's Resolutions

    Welcome!

    The purpose of this blog is to give me a forum to publish whatever is on my mind. I have a blog that I use for Presentation Skills, and one that I use for martial arts, but not one for general thoughts. Posts to this blog will automatically be sent to a Yahoo! group. I've set it up so that anyone can join, so if you're intersted in what's on my mind, please feel free to join.

    Since today is the first of the year 2009, I thought I'd write about New Year's Resolutions. My resolutions for this year are:

  • Get back into martial arts as a family activity.
  • Successfully complete my courses at Thunderbird.
  • Establish better communication with friends and family.
  • Establish and maintain good exercise and financial habits.

    This blog relates to the third resolution. I've also created a family blog, though I haven't yet discussed that with Brandi. I also posted some videos on a new YouTube account, though that might be replaced by an upgrade to our SmugMug account. The first resolution relates to the fourth resolution.

    My plan is to post at least four times per week. (Every day would be ideal, but I'm trying to be realistic.) If I have a post that really belongs on one of my other blogs, I'll post it there and link to it from here.

    Happy New Year!
    Matt Jones
    http://www.mattdtm.com
  • Monday, August 11, 2008

    Speed Breathing

    No, I don't mean breathing as fast as you can... What I mean is breathing for speed. Lots of martial arts instructors teach their students to exhale when performing a technique. They have good reasons for doing this: It focuses energy, tightens the abdominal muscles, and keeps beginners from holding their breath! I agree that for beginners it's a good lesson because forgetting to breath is a VERY bad thing. Once students gets past that, though, I encourage them to keep their breathing as steady as possible. Here's why:

    First of all, breathing fast is not the best way to be in for the long haul. I've taught distance runners and they're usually quick to understand that the best way to keep going is to control one's breathing. If they were to try to exhale every time a foot hit the ground, they'd not last very long. Learning to control your breathing and separate the act of breathing from the act of kicking or punching actually gives you more control of your kicking and punching. This is where speed breathing comes into play...

    Repetative drills are a part of just about every martial arts class. The instructor calls out a number and the student responds with a technique. The goals of the student are (or at least should be) first to perform the technique as flawlessly as possbile, then to be as fast as possible. How fast the student is is also a function of breathing. If teh student has to inhale in order to be ready to exhale when the technique is executed, then the student will be slower. Here's the process:

    1) Hear the count
    2) Inhale and hold
    3) Execute the technique and exhale

    If the student separates breathing from technique execution then he/she will be faster. Sure, it's not going to turn someone who is slow into someone who is not, but it's a way for each individual to be as fast as they can.

    Breathing can also be used to telegraph techniques in sparring. If you know your partner won't thrown a technique without first inhaling, then you wait for an exhale and attack. Speed breathing not only makes you faster during drills, but can also improve your sparring...

    Tuesday, August 05, 2008

    10 Skills You Need to Succeed at Almost Anything

    What does it take to succeed? A positive attitude? Well, sure, but that’s hardly enough. The Law of Attraction? The Secret? These ideas might act as spurs to action, but without the action itself, they don’t do much.

    Success, however it’s defined, takes action, and taking good and appropriate action takes skills. Some of these skills (not enough, though) are taught in school (not well enough, either), others are taught on the job, and still others we learn from general life experience.

    Below is a list of general skills that will help anyone get ahead in practically any field, from running a company to running a gardening club. Of course, there are skills specific to each field as well – but my concern here is with the skills that translate across disciplines, the ones that can be learned by anyone in any position.

    1. Public Speaking
    The ability to speak clearly, persuasively, and forcefully in front of an audience – whether an audience of 1 or of thousands – is one of the most important skills anyone can develop. People who are effective speakers come across as more comfortable with themselves, more confident, and more attractive to be around. Being able to speak effectively means you can sell anything – products, of course, but also ideas, ideologies, worldviews. And yourself – which means more opportunities for career advancement, bigger clients, or business funding.

    Read the entire article here.

    Thursday, July 10, 2008

    Instructional Flexibility: A Different Kind of Stretch

    I wrote this paper years ago and figured I'd post it after bringing the topic up in my last post...

    Abstract

    A martial artist’s need for flexibility to improve technique and reduce the risk of injury is well known. However, not as well known is the martial arts instructor’s need for a different kind of flexibility. This flexibility involves adapting their instructing style to match the learning style of the students. In martial arts schools across the country and around the world you will see groups of uniformly dressed students executing techniques in what seems to be exactly the same way, but what’s going on in the mind of the individual students can be completely different.

    Introduction

    For years, educators have known of the theory of multiple intelligences, which states that individuals have a dominant method or methods of learning and if teachers were to favor some methods over others, then some students would be left behind. These students would be deemed “slow” or “stupid”, but the facts would show that it is the teacher who is at fault due to non-flexibility in their teaching style. In his book “Multiple Intelligences: The Theory in Practice”, Harvard University’s Dr. Howard Gardner defines the seven intelligences as: musical, bodily-kinesthetic, logical-mathematical, linguistic (auditory), spatial (visual), interpersonal, and intrapersonal. For the purposes of martial arts, I will focus on three, though in some way all seven could be applied.

    Every martial arts instructor has had some students who seem to learn better by explanation (auditory), while others learn better by repetition (kinesthetic), and still others learn by observation (visual). It is the responsibility of the instructor to know the learning style of his or her students and adapt the lesson to utilize the styles of those present.

    For example, if I were teaching a group of six students how to do a proper side kick, it would help to know that Jennie, Johnny, and Susan are auditory learners; while Billy, Bobby, and Carol are visual learners. If this is the case, would it make sense for me to do a couple of fast ones and tell them to keep doing them until they get it right? No, that method might only be appropriate for kinesthetic learners and would only serve to frustrate the class and make my job more difficult. For Jennie, Johnny, and Susan’s benefit I would explain in detail the position of my feet, hands, hips, shoulders, head, everything. For Billy, Bobby, and Carol’s benefit, I would break the technique down into many individual movements to ensure that they can see the details at each step. The following sections will break each of the three intelligences down to explain how students of each type can be most effectively taught.

    Teaching Auditory Learners

    To teach auditory learners, an instructor must present information orally, speaking clearly and loudly enough so that the entire class can hear easily. Auditory learners need specific directions, not just phrases such as “like I’m doing”, “this way”, or “the other way”. Exact wording must be used to most effectively communicate the task at hand. To test whether your wording would be appropriate for auditory learners, practice writing it down and giving it to a fellow instructor. If the wording is clear and concise, then the fellow instructor should easily be able to duplicate your movement.

    Auditory learners will often ask questions and repeat the answers. This is their method of reinforcing the auditory response and should not be taken as being disrespectful – it is simply their way of retaining the information you have presented. This leads to some behavior that may seem inappropriate during practice time: Auditory learners tend to talk out loud during, or instead or, physical practice. This can be disruptive to that student’s partner and to the class. If possible, try to pair auditory learners together so that they can verbally reinforce each other, but remind them to maintain a level of respect to those who simply “learn by doing”.

    Teaching Kinesthetic Learners

    In the traditional martial arts environment, kinesthetic learners should be the easiest to teach, because they learn by doing. However, an instructor must still meet the special needs of kinesthetic learners. An instructor should demonstrate the technique and have the students practice it until they begin to show proficiency. At this point, the instructor should explain the concept behind the technique and make corrections in form. The reason for this sequence is that kinesthetic learners cannot fully take in non-physical information until they have developed the technique as a reflexive movement.

    An instructor needs to provide a variety of activities for kinesthetic learners. This may be done by including practice in the various aspects of the art in every workout. Providing variations on drills and combinations also keeps kinesthetic learners on task. During paired practice, changing partners frequently stimulated kinesthetic learners since they are then required to somewhat alter their techniques to suit their partner’s physical needs, such as skill level, height, and weight. Kinesthetic learners will also benefit from working with partners who already know the material. This is due to experiencing the techniques done correctly.

    Kinesthetic learners have trouble staying still, so for their benefit an instructor should limit the length of lectures and explanations. An instructor should also accept that kinesthetic learners probably will keep moving during demonstration and may even copy the instructor’s moves in an attempt to learn the lesson. This motion is not a sign of disrespect – it is simply their way of retaining the information you have presented.

    Teaching Visual Learners

    To teach visual learners, an instructor must present information in a clearly and easily seen manner. This starts by arranging students in formations that allow all students, especially beginners, to see the instructor or another role model. An instructor may also use mirror imaging to help visual learners grasp new techniques.
    During moving drills, an instructor should intersperse advanced students throughout the beginner’s ranks so beginners can easily see the techniques performed by someone with more experience. During partner drills, visual learners may need to change their physical position to be able to see better and to match their orientation with that of the instructor. This is also true during demonstrations and again, this motion is not a sign of disrespect – it is simply their way of retaining the information you have presented.

    Conclusion

    An instructor’s primary function is to pass along information and students are there to receive it. However, when there are gaps in the communication lines between instructor and student, this is not always possible. This link contains a short questionnaire that can be given to students as well as an explanation as to how it can be used to determine their dominant method of learning.

    Regardless of a student’s dominant learning type, the other types of learning should not be ignored since people are usually a combination of all seven. However, by knowing the dominant learning type of each student and understanding what is required to teach students of that learning type, instructors can be more effective in performing their primary function, but not without a lot of hard work. Adjusting one’s teaching methods can be a major undertaking, but just as muscle flexibility is a achieved through dedication and hard work, so is instructional flexibility. The final result will be more skillful students and more successful instructors.

    Tuesday, July 08, 2008

    How to Choose a Martial Arts School

    I'm often asked by people who have no martial arts experience to recommend a school to them. What I tell them is that there is no one "best" school and that they should look for one that will best meet their needs.

    If you're considering starting martial arts training I encourage you to visit several schools before making a commit to any one and be sure and go at the same time you'll want to take class. This will make sure that the school's schedule is compatible with yours. It'll also give you the opportunity to see how your class (should you choose to train there) will be run. Many schools advertise based on the skill and experience of the owner, but it's someone completely different who actually does the teaching. Honestly, who cares if the owner is a 10th degree black belt with 50 years of experience if the guy teaching your class is a 19-year old who just got his black belt last month?

    It also gives you a chance to understand the communication style of the instructor. Some instructors are very good at explaining techniques with specific language. Others just say, "Do this." A better way to explain a technique (in this case, a knife-hand guarding block) is, "Fingers straight and tight, thumb tucked in, wrist straight, first knuckles of front hand at eye level, front hand palm down at 45 degrees, front elbow bent at 90 degrees and in front of the ribs, back hand palm up and one inch from the solar plexus." It should be obvious that students of the "do this" instructor may not grasp the nuances of the technique because to a beginner just having the proper hand in front may seem right. It's more than audible, though, a good instructor will also demonstrate proper technique (visual) and adjust the positions of people who don't have it quite right (kinesthetic). Just shouting out command is not teaching, it's drilling.

    Visiting a class will also give you an idea of what the school's primary objective is. Many schools focus on reactive discipline and cardiovascular exercise. If the class seems to be primarily one-way communication (very few questions and little opportunity for them), that may be an indication that the school's view of discipline is akin to "blind obedience." Good instructors encourage questions and answer them in a respectful way. It may also be that the instructor thinks a "good workout" is one in which a lot of sweat is excreted. If your goal is to learn a martial art, you shouldn't necessarily get a great cardio workout in every class. Another way this can manifest itself is based on what the instructor wants the students to do well. If an instructor is willing to overlook sloppy technique, but will have the students repeat their yell of "YES, SIR!!" over and over again, then it should be a sign that the instructor is more interested in reactive discipline than proper technique.

    Cost is another issue, so be sure and ask not only about what the tuition is but whether there are testing fees. Some schools charge what seems like reasonable tuition, but outrageous testing fees. The idea is that once you're committed, you won't balk because you want that next rank. The fees may also be a function of the rank, so be sure and ask about that, too. The testing fee for gold belt could be $20 (not bad since the belt could cost that much), while the testing fee for black belt could be hundreds. Saving $100 per month on tuition doesn't help you if you lose that much (and more) to testing fees. Testing fees also create a conflict of interest for the school since it may be perceived that students are being tested before they're ready just to collect the fee. Know your budget and what you can afford. A good martial arts school is going to cost a lot more than a gym membership, but the rewards should also be much greater.

    Please don't take this as a "right" and "wrong" dichotomy. If what you want in your training is a lot of sweating and yelling and high energy, then such a school may be just what you need. However, you'll be disappointed if you think you're learning a martial art, but what you're really doing is Tae-Bo or cardio-karate. Visit schools, talk to the instructors and other students, but most importantly think hard about what you want to get out of the experience. It only after you really know what you want can you effectively seek it... It may seem like an ancient Chinese saying, but the truth is that no path is wrong if you don't know your destination...

    Thursday, July 03, 2008

    Moving On

    It has been a long time since I posted. Not long after my last post I started getting involved more closely with Grandmaster Choi and was helping him with his web site. I was hoping to leverage my experience in web development and business to turn the site into a great marketing tool for the school and a great educational resource for the students.

    Unfortunately, Grandmaster Choi didn't want suggestions. He wanted someone to do exactly what he wanted, when he wanted, no questions asked... It made going to the school VERY stressful. Every time I'd walk in, he'd have something he'd want changed...yesterday. I did make some suggestions and proposed some changes to him by showing what the site would look like and asking his permission to go ahead. I thought I had it and he understood what to expect, but several times got panicked calls from other students who were involved about how the site is "all messed up."

    All this time I was teaching regularly and taking private lessons. My class seemed to be going great! One day last November I came in and was told that "everyone" was complaining about me and that someone else would be taking over my class. The way he did this, right before class and in front of all the students, was (in my opinion) very disrespectful. Who "everyone" was I couldn't tell you because those who took my class regularly had nothing but positive feedback. The way I was teaching last November was almost exactly the way I had been teaching for over a year, and exactly the way I taught when Grandmaster Choi was watching over me like a hawk and calling me "one of his best instructors." (I'm sure I did some things different from the other instructors and I'll likely comment on those in another post.) Anyway, after being treated with such disrespect, I knew I'd never be able to train there again. To this day, I have no idea what the real reasons were for my receiving such treatment, but am glad that I'm moving on...

    When I started training in Isshinryu Karate in 1991 in Rochester, NY (http://www.rochesterkarate.com/) I was a student at RIT. Martial arts was my escape from the pressures of school. Sensei Matt Dorsey, and the other great instructors he has working with him, understood this. In 1996, I graduated with honors from RIT with a B.S. in computer engineering. The focus and dedication it took for me to do that was, in no small part, a result of my training with Sensei Dorsey. A "black belt" was not just something I got to wear about my waist, it was something I'd become. I will be forever grateful to Sensei Dorsey for this.

    Training with Grandmaster Choi started out in a simlilar way. It was a great stress reliever and something I really looked forward to doing. I was learning a lot (especially having switched styles from Isshinryu to TKD) and really enjoying it! The problem was that as I got higher in rank, I also got closer to Grandmaster Choi. Normally, I'd say it's a good thing being closer to one's instructor. (One of my only regrets about my time in Rochester was that I wasn't able to get to know the folks there on a more personal level. I was either VERY busy with school, or out of town for vacation.) One of the other black belts at GM Choi's school (I won't name names) likened him to a flame. He said that it may seem like a good idea to get close, but you'll definintely get burned if you get too close. That should have been a warning...

    A couple of months ago, I started training with a group of other Intel folks in the gym on Intel's Ocotillo campus. The classes are run by a VERY experienced TKD practitioner named Jeff Nelson, who is everything a great martial arts teacher should be! These classes have reminded me why I love martial arts training, so I hope to be posting more regularly now that I'm back to training more regularly... Thank you!!

    Practice What I Preach

    In order to ensure that my readers know that I practice what I preach I've started posting my speeches on YouTube. As of this writing, you'll find both my Toastmasters Ice Breaker speech and my speech in the Fall 2007 Gila Division Humorous speech contest. They are at http://www.youtube.com/user/mattdtm. In the future, I'll be posting more speeches and portions of the presentation skills class I teach...

    Wednesday, April 09, 2008

    The Best Way to Improve

    The best way to improve your presentation skills is to find a comfortable place to practice and get useful feedback. For thousands and thousands of people all over the world this place is a Toastmasters club. What makes Toastmasters particularly effective in helping people improve is the "mutually supportive and positive learning environment" that is the mission of every club to create! Getting feedback from a peer on a work-related presentation might help you improve the content, but getting feedback from an experienced Toastmaster will help ensure that your content is effectively communicated to your audience. To find a club near you, visit http://www.toastmasters.org/find and search based on criteria that work for you. If you have any questions, please feel free to post comments to this post. Thanks!

    Tuesday, March 25, 2008

    What is a Presentation?

    One of the most important take-aways from Tony Jeary's "Life is a Series of Presentations" is the idea that presenting is something you do all the time. Most people have the notion that they're only presenting if there's a large audience, a darkened room, and some PowerPoint slides. Don't think this way! It's only when you think of every conversation, phone message, email, and blog posting as a presentation that you really begin to communicate with the proper mindset. Every presentation has a goal and achieveing that goal should be the focus of that presentation. The goal could be simply to get the dry cleaner to understand that your pants need to be ready by Tuesday, but without understanding that you have a goal and focusing on it your communication gets confused. The bottom line is this: Live as if life truly is a series of presentations and by honing your skills on the little, everyday presentations you'll be ready for that once-in-a-lifetime presentation.

    Wednesday, March 12, 2008

    Welcome to Matt's Presentation Skills Blog

    Welcome to my blog about presentation skills! I've been in Toastmasters for over five years and have earned two Distinguished Toastmaster (DTM) awards. For a few years I've been a master instructor for Intel University's (Intel's in-house training group) Presentation Skills course. I'm also certified to teach Public Speaking for the University of Phoenix. During this time, I've come up with some (in my humble opinion) pretty good advice on how people can improve their presentation skills. Some of the advice is based on my own expereince, some of it is based on something I've read, some a combination of both. I'll be sure and note the difference and hope that you find this blog useful. If you have any comments or questions, please feel free to post them. Thanks!

    Wednesday, September 13, 2006

    Point Sparring

    The following post is excerpted from my article No Point: The Case Against Competition in the Martial Arts, which was published in the January 2001 issue of Taekwondo Times magazine.

    Many martial artists involved in tournament competition incorrectly interchange the terms “sparring” and “fighting”. This can be a dangerous practice since sparring is very different from fighting, and in some cases the improvement of one’s sparring skills can actually be a detriment to one’s self-defense skills. The reason for this is that there are certain techniques that are deemed “illegal” in sparring, such as groin and knee kicks, and excessive head contact. The reason that these techniques are not acceptable in sparring is due to the fact that they can be very dangerous, which is exactly the reason that they are so effective in extreme self-defense situations. The truth is that “the tournament [competitor] doesn’t have to cope with reality.” [1] Tournament competitors who train to hone their sparring skills and remove “illegal” techniques from their personal arsenals in favor of more effective point-scoring techniques are not going to be able to call on these techniques to protect themselves on the street.

    “In sport karate, the emphasis is on speed, not focus, and the techniques are often not valid; it’s all who can touch first. Tournament techniques are designed for one thing: scoring points. Therefore students are being rewarded for executing invalid martial arts techniques.” [2]

    Self-Defense and Legal Implications

    “When martial arts become sports, they emphasis techniques that are inappropriate for a self-defense situation. Often, someone who trains in self-defense will hesitate while his mind is attempting to adapt his martial arts repertoire to the rules of a point tournament. But this is far less dangerous than the tournament [competitor] who doesn’t understand the need to protect his knees or groin because he has been working within an environment that doesn’t stress such protection. It’s been said ‘As you train, so will you react.’ Anything which creates confusion in the mind of the practitioner causes a barrier between thought and action.” [2] Effective self-defense is not the ability to beat somebody up, rather it is the ability to avoid getting hurt yourself. A competitor’s mindset is often to strike first in order to score, which is actually contrary to the tenet that martial arts is for defense only. This approach is more likely to start fights than it is to end them, and even if you only get one bruise, it’s one bruise more than was necessary if the fight could have been avoided. “Real fights are only the ones you cannot avoid. Those are the only fights in which you’re in real danger.” [3] “If you can avoid a fight, you have conquered the situation. You have achieved victory.” [4]

    “The ‘first-strike’ attitude of the [tournament competitor] goes against the ethics of most martial arts. On the street, a martial artist shouldn’t strike without provocation, yet sport karate forces the competitor to do so. This creates an aggressive, competitive, must-win mentality. In other words, in self-defense, if no one hits, everyone wins; in sport karate, if no one hits, no one wins.” [2] This problem also has legal implications as well. “The truth is that you stand a reasonable chance of facing criminal penalties for defending yourself using the knowledge you learn from the martial arts. For you to make a successful claim of self-defense, you must convince the police, judge or jury that you reasonably believed that you were in imminent danger of bodily harm from an unlawful attack by the assailant that you used only the force necessary to neutralize the threat. So in effect the burden of proof shifts from the prosecution to the defendant in cases of self-defense.” [5]

    Benefits of Sparring

    This is not to be interpreted as a case against sparring; on the contrary, sparring can be a useful tool, if done properly. Consider this analogy: Sparring can be to self-defense what skating is to ice hockey. Clearly skating is a crucial foundation skill for a hockey player to possess, but the ability to play effective hockey goes well beyond the ability to skate. Sparring can be used to improve balance, timing, distancing, reaction time, stamina, and many other qualities that an effective martial artist must posses. However, if these foundation skills are not built upon concurrent self-defense training, then they will not be useful for personal protection. In any event, “the role of modern martial arts training should be to improve the quality of a practitioner’s life, not fashion him into a lethal weapon.” [6]

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    [1] Wong, Scott “Genghis”. “The Theoretical Martial Artist.” Martial Arts Training. September, 1993: 28-29, 70.
    [2] Meyer, Lynn. “Can Sport Karate Ruin Your Self-Defense Skills.” Black Belt. November, 1989: 46-59.
    [3] Blaur, Tony. “Where Do You Stand?” Martial Arts Training. May 1997: 45.
    [4] Nardi, Thomas J. “Winning or Victory.” Martial Arts Training. July, 1993: 56-57.
    [5] Bishop, James. “Guilty or Not Guilty?” Black Belt. February, 1999: 174-179.
    [6] Plott, Michael J. “The 10 Dumbest Statements Martial Artists Make.” Black Belt. February, 1997.